The Colors of Dating - Round 1

The first in a 3-part blog on dating perspective.

This blog, in part, is an additional response to the Bad Advice blog I wrote earlier this week. It’s also inspired by my own observations within the dating world. Everyone has their own goal when it comes to dating. I’ve fund that there are three big goals that most people usually pursue.

1. Get laid

2. Establish a long term relationship.

3. Self discovery

The rest of this blog will discuss my views on the “colors of dating”. I don’t claim it as a definitive guide but I think I have a lot of experience on this subject and, being an introspective type of personality, I tend to think I have this whole dating bit figured out.

1. Get Laid

Fairly straight forward. People wanna fuck and they require someone willing to fuck them to do this. Unfortunately this arena has a stigma attached to it that regards the men in it as players and the women as sluts.

If you’re dating because your goal is to develop a purely physical relationship with someone else, there’s nothing wrong with that as long as you’re honest about it. Hell, the bar scene, and the entire city of Vegas, is overflowing with people looking for a good fuck. It’s human. Humans are designed to screw and it’s in our genetics to screw as often as possible. Never confuse sex, fucking, and making love. They are three different things that involve similar processes.

You like steak don’t you? Well that’s “making love”

You like hamburgers don’t you? That’s “sex”.

You like sloppy Joe’s don’t you? That’s “fucking”.

You’ll sure as hell go for a steak if you can get one but you can go for a hamburger every now and again too... and who DOESN’T like Sloppy Joe’s?! And, of course, taco’s are eating vagina

and hot dogs are sucking dick.

That’s where the analogy breaks down because I like hot dogs but I am not interested in sucking dick. I also like eating vagina but I just happen to not be crazy about taco’s... just couldn’t find a good “food item” that corresponded to the act.

Now, replace your digestive system with your reproductive system and the analogy hits home. Similar process, different experience. People who are judgmental of people who are out there looking for one night stands often have some sort of bizarre repressed sexuality that only allows them to seek out "steak". These same people often use “hamburgers” to lure a partner into a relationship where they can eventually have "steak"... and "sloppy Joe's" when they’re in the mood.

The women in this arena often have the least sexuality repressed.

They know they like sex and they know that every sexual experience isn’t gonna be with the guy they are gonna spend the rest of their life with. They get a bad reputation because they are "sluts" and "ho's" but fuck the judgmental... They can live their lives in a sexually repressed bubble all they want. The people who are sexually healthy can enjoy themselves in the meantime. These women like hamburgers, sloppy Joe’s, and hot dogs and aren’t ashamed of that fact.

The men in this area are often typical... but a little stupid, which is unfortunate.

These men need to learn to develop charisma and communication skills. You have a WAY better chance of getting laid if you’re witty and intelligent than if you have bulging biceps and rippling abdomen. They, unfortunately, often resort to lying and pretending to be looking for a long term relationship to get into women’s pants. This is extremely shitty but very common. These men like hamburgers, sloppy Joe’s, and taco’s (sometimes they don't like taco's which I don't understand). I’d say they aren’t ashamed to admit it but than what guy is?

There are beliefs out there that suggest that sex is a very special thing that happens between two people who love each other.

That’s fine. Not EVERYONE believes that though. Every person has a right to do with his or her body as they see fit. Their actions may result in negative consequences such as unexpected pregnancy or STDs and that’s THEIR responsibility which they accept of their own free will. If you’re a dumb ass and you catch something that makes your dick shrivel up like a prune that’s your dumb-ass fault. Chi-Chi’s went out of business for having bugs in its tacos and so will you! Choose your taco carefully.

I’ve noticed a lot of people have huge hang-ups on sex. In our culture it seems like such a huge deal! When you have sex with someone you are connecting with them but it depends on the nature of the sex that determines that connection.

If you have a one-night-stand the connection IS sex. That’s it. No more no less. If you have a relationship, sex as a venue by which you connect BEYOND the emotional and mental connection you already have. You have friends that you have established emotional and mental connections. Why is it bizarre or unacceptable to have OTHER people that you have a physical connection with? Sometimes you can have a physical connection with friends. This is called “Friends with benefits” or, the politically correct term; "fuckbuddy"

Now, this leaves the door open for a discussion about monogamy which I will not get into now. The root of what I’m getting it is this; sex is awesome! Go fuck someone who wants to fuck you! If it’s your husband/wife, girlfriend/boyfriend, or nameless cock/nameless pussy so be it! Enjoy.

Life’s too short to wait around for steak when you can grab a hamburger when you get the chance. If you can have steak every night with the person you love, that’s great. Don’t look down on the people in this world who are happy with hamburgers, sloppy Joe’s, hot dogs, and taco’s.

More to come on establishing a long term relationship and self discovery… just wanted to get straight to the fucking while I had the chance ;)

Tagged with: descovery, fucking, one night stand, Relationship, Sex, vegas